a state of grace

After a lot of reflecting and soul searching, I learned an important lesson today about change. The bigger the change, the harder it is to implement. That part was a no-brainer! The key to being successful in change, is to be grateful for the little milestones along the way. For the purposes of this post I am referring to life changes but the theory can be applied to any type of change.

When in change, everyone goes through a period of transition. Sometimes the transition is quick, and other times it could seem to drag on forever. In this period, it is likely that you will say good-bye to what has not been serving you thus far in your life, and will begin moving in a new direction. This could be many things at once or one major life change. But it is that period of limbo that is so stressful. The period where your neither here nor there. The reason for this is that what ever you’ve left behind, good or bad, has now left an empty void in its place in your life. This is enough to fill anyone’s mind with doubts. And although your on your way to greatness, it probably has not fully transpired yet. Maybe your not even clear on what it looks like and your afraid that you will not recognize it when it finally comes. And depending on the type of change, your probably facing some resistance from outside sources along the way, making you doubt yourself even more. Either way, you have many challenges to face along the way. This can leave you feeling scared, vulnerable and even lost at times.

It’s important to recognize that these emotions, although extremely intense and sometimes hard to ignore, are not serving your purpose. If anything, they are what is keeping you in this state of transition. These emotions will keep you exactly where you are. You won’t see the opportunity to move forward when it presents itself because you’ll be too wrapped in your own emotions. And even if you do see it, these emotions will keep from acting on that opportunity, because chances are you will be so wrapped in negative self talk that you will talk yourself out of doing what it was you set out to do in the first place. Last but not least and actually probably the most important thing to remember, is that when you are in this state of negativity, you’re probably blocking any of the opportunities that you are waiting for from coming to you at all. This is the law of the universe, and it is as sure as the law of gravity.

So what do you do when your in this state? Find your gratitude. Gratitude is not only the quickest way to dissolve our negative beliefs, but it is also the most effective way to get the universe working for you. The universe loves you and wants only what is best for you, but you have to be grateful for it first. So be thankful…be thankful for all the little things that make your life better every single day. Be thankful for the people in your life, be thankful for the courage you found to make this big change, be thankful for all the little milestones throughout your transition, and most importantly…be thankful for the opportunities that have not yet revealed themselves to you for they are there waiting for you to welcome them into your life. Oh…and don’t forget to be thankful for the little things. Even that hot cup of morning coffee that soothes you like a warm blanket and kick-starts your every day! This state of grace is the key to every great story of inspirational change, not to mention…the inspiration behind this blog.


About the writer

So yes, you've guessed it...I am in the process of getting divorced. Now surely I've had many challenges along the way, but I can honestly say that it has truly been the most eye opening experience of my life. Although it's never what you plan or hope for and it can be truly devastating when you realize it's happening, but it can also have a silver lining if you look for it...once you get through the guilt, anger, self-loathing, several pints of Haagen Dazs and a crate or two of wine of course. My divorce not only got me out of a very unhealthy relationship, but it also opened the door for me to reshape my entire life. So after a year of loafing, I am getting my ass off my couch and into gear to transform everything that I know has not been doing me any justice in my life. I went from trying to be the perfect daughter to trying to be the perfect wife, constantly accepting that which was imposed on me and living my life on auto pilot. Well, all that is about to change. 2012 is finally over and the new year is here, and this will be the year that I change my life and make it what I want it to be. This blog will document my experiences and hopefully help other men and women in the same boat to find some sort of inspiration. I would also like to hear from those of you who have some tips, advice or inspiring stories of your own to share. For many of us, just knowing that there are others who have lived to tell their stories with somewhat of a happy ending, is inspiration enough. Happy New Year!!!

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