a phoenix rising

Sometimes you find inspiration in the strangest places. Today I sit here watching “So You Think You Can Dance” and I have never been so moved and inspired by a performance.  A young man, a contestant, dedicated his performance to the brother he recently lost.  His performance was so powerful, so raw and so emotional that it moved me, the audience and even the judges to tears. His performance really got me thinking about life.

In Greek mythology, the Phoenix is an long lived bird that cyclically regenerates or is reborn. And like every great Greek myth, there is always a moral or a lesson to be learned from it.  We regenerate much like the Phoenix.  We do not die and come back to life of course.  But we do face challenges in life and extraordinary changes. But like the Phoenix, we do have the ability to rise above them.  In fact, many of these challenges and changes only serve to make us stronger, smarter, better.  Sometimes, out of our darkest moments of our lives, comes the most extraordinary experiences.  Experiences that would not have come had we not faced those dark moments.  Take the young dancer.  He faced the horrible pain of losing his brother, and then used that pain to share his beautiful gift with the world…something he might not have done had he not lost his brother to begin with.

The key is to be grateful for the challenges no matter how painful, and to be aware of what it is they are trying to teach us about ourselves.  And most importantly, to not be afraid of failing as no matter what the odds, even if we do fail miserably and fall, we will rise again.  As that is the cycle and the natural balance.  Where we find challenge there is always support, where there is good there is always bad, and where we fall we will always rise again.


About the writer

So yes, you've guessed it...I am in the process of getting divorced. Now surely I've had many challenges along the way, but I can honestly say that it has truly been the most eye opening experience of my life. Although it's never what you plan or hope for and it can be truly devastating when you realize it's happening, but it can also have a silver lining if you look for it...once you get through the guilt, anger, self-loathing, several pints of Haagen Dazs and a crate or two of wine of course. My divorce not only got me out of a very unhealthy relationship, but it also opened the door for me to reshape my entire life. So after a year of loafing, I am getting my ass off my couch and into gear to transform everything that I know has not been doing me any justice in my life. I went from trying to be the perfect daughter to trying to be the perfect wife, constantly accepting that which was imposed on me and living my life on auto pilot. Well, all that is about to change. 2012 is finally over and the new year is here, and this will be the year that I change my life and make it what I want it to be. This blog will document my experiences and hopefully help other men and women in the same boat to find some sort of inspiration. I would also like to hear from those of you who have some tips, advice or inspiring stories of your own to share. For many of us, just knowing that there are others who have lived to tell their stories with somewhat of a happy ending, is inspiration enough. Happy New Year!!!

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