“Get too close to the flame!” This is my favorite line from the song that I posted the other day (and yes I’ve been listening to it ever since, dancing to it in my living room and singing it in my car). Those six little words say so much. “The flame” is everything in life that we avoid getting close to in fear of getting burned. Many of us have a preconceived notion that to avoid getting burned is the path to a happy life. But the reality is if we are living in fear…we are simply not living!
There is no avoiding pain. Pain is a natural part of life as is pleasure, and there is always equal amounts of both no matter what we choose. This is the universal balance, and it is as real as the law of gravity. Each choice we make will bring equal amounts of happiness and sadness, pain and pleasure. This alone should take the fear out of any choice. The only thing we can do to ensure our happiness is to choose according to what our heart wants. Not the mind and not your emotions, but the heart. The heart is always in alignment with your true passions. The mind is riddled with ideologies and obligations that may not necessarily be serving you. Emotions on the other hand are impulsive and reckless, and they are poisoned with fear and infatuation. But the heart is always true and it will never steer you down the wrong path. And when you follow your heart no matter how impossible it might seem, you will never have regrets. Even if you fail, somehow it will serve you and you’ll feel better know that you tried rather than spending the rest of your life wondering “what if”.
So go ahead! Live life large! Forget everything that society has told you that you should and should not do, and forget all the rules that you have placed upon yourself as the formula to what leads to a happy life. These are only limiting you. There is no formula. It’s all excrement. If everything in your life is balanced and you choose according to your heart you simply can’t go wrong. Simply embrace the chaos that is life with courage and an open heart. Stop shying away from the challenges that are there to teach you and help you grow. Get close to the flame and don’t be afraid to feel the heat. Touch it until your skin scorches and your pulse raises like wild horses making it difficult to catch your breath and suddenly, you will know that you are alive.