Yesterday, as I got home and was waiting for an elevator, I saw a woman who had such a profound impact on me I could not wait to walk in the door and write about it. We never spoke, or even made eye contact. But the impression that she made on me will stay with me for a while, as will the sadness to know that there are women out there that feel so horrible about themselves that they will literally mutilate their biological temple in the name of beauty.
There was not an inch on this woman that wasn’t chiselled, tucked, implanted or injected. What was probably once a beautiful woman is now just a physical montage of botched surgeries, performed intentionally to create something that was never real to begin with. My heart literally broke when I saw her. How insecure she must feel to go to these lengths to feel good about herself. And yet the reality is that she probably still feels insecure, even after numerous painful and invasive surgeries, because if you can’t love who you are on the inside, you will never be able to appreciate what is on the outside.
No one is prefect. And trying to create the perception that you are will only lead to more and more insecurities. In many ways it becomes an addiction that can never be satisfied. At the end of the day if, something is really bothering you about your appearance, there is nothing wrong with a little nip here, and a little tuck there. But if your goal is create an entirely new version of yourself that even your own mother would not recognize, than no amount of nipping and tucking is going to make you feel better.
I urge women everywhere to start loving themselves, inside and out. Feel the light that is within you and use it to discover your true essence, your true beauty. Do the things you enjoy and that make you feel good in a healthy way. Perhaps even find new things. Take classes, read a good book, take a walk in a park, get a pet…anything to get you away from spending your time obsessing over the reflection in the mirror staring back at you and wishing it were different. You are all beautiful. Start loving and appreciating who you are on the inside, so that you can love and appreciate who you are on the outside. Find the beauty that is within you and celebrate it. And always remember that the beauty that radiates from within is far more powerful than any scalpel.